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Why Do I Shut Down During Conflict?

Why Do I Shut Down During Conflict?

Published by Jenni Sidey

Apologies in advance to my husband for revealing this terrible secret, but: we argue. And sometimes when we argue, there’s this moment when things just go numb. I can picture it—one second things are red hot, my chest is tight, voices are raised, and I’m making my case, trying to get him to understand me. And then the next moment: nothing. It’s not like I get calm or sad or even resigned. It’s the total absence of feeling. It’s like all the energy I had for this fight (whether it was actually doing any good or not) just teleported to another dimension. I can feel my husband’s frustration in moments like these. He sees me go from engaged to disengaged in a split second. He wants to keep talking, but I’m already gone. And let me be clear: Shutting down doesn’t feel like a choice in that moment. It’s not a powerful tool that I’ve devised to send all my negative emotions to some cosmic emotional landfill. Like so many of the strategies we learn, …

The Outset Has Shut Down — Here Are Editor-Approved Alternatives

The Outset Has Shut Down — Here Are Editor-Approved Alternatives

Published by Sam Flores

The news is true: after four years in business, The Outset, Scarlett Johansson’s clean, sensitive skin-friendly skin care line, is officially closing. The announcement came via the brand’s website on Monday, where a message sharing the news was posted to the homepage. Although the brand says all existing orders will still be fulfilled, online ordering has ended, leaving thousands of customers looking for sensitive skin alternatives. Below, I’ve gathered some of our favorite skin care products for sensitive skin, including cleansers, moisturizers and serums, to ease you through the transition of the brand’s shuttering. Want more from NBC Selected? Sign up for our newsletter, The Selection, and shop smarter. Our favorite products for sensitive skin Below are a few of our staff’s favorite products for sensitive skin, all of which have been tried, tested and approved by NBC Selected editors. This cleanser’s gentle formula is made specifically for dry skin, and includes niacinamide to help soothe and ceramides for maximum hydration, all without stripping your skin, according to the brand. NBC Selected editorial director Lauren …

People Who Shut Down Bossy Coworkers Without Being Rude Say 11 Things When Someone Oversteps

People Who Shut Down Bossy Coworkers Without Being Rude Say 11 Things When Someone Oversteps

Published by Jenni Sidey

Putting up with someone who speaks over you and thinks they’re your boss (when they’re definitely not!) can be incredibly frustrating and demeaning. The point of a conversation isn’t to dominate, but to actively listen and share ideas. Whether this is being done by a colleague you don’t like all that much or even a work friend, it can be hard to strike a balance between setting boundaries and being rude. The key is to have a few phrases in mind ahead of time, so you know just what to do when someone tries to boss you around or speak over you. People who shut down bossy coworkers without being rude say these phrases when someone oversteps: 1. ‘Thanks, I’ll let you know if I need help’ BongkarnGraphic | Shutterstock This phrase successfully cuts off unnecessary opinions or unsolicited advice without being rude. As long as you’re careful of your tone so you don’t sound snide, it also doesn’t make someone feel like they’re being talked down to, nor does it create any conflict. “Hearing …

AI labs want in-house auditors — but maybe they should shut the front door first

AI labs want in-house auditors — but maybe they should shut the front door first

Published by Miika Tikkanen

Last weekend, after one of his researchers resigned over fears that AI could lead to human extinction, Anthropic CEO Dario Amodei wrote about the need for outside organizations “to verify adherence to safety practices and commitments, report incidents, and help assess the alignment of not just completed AI models but training pipelines and processes.” Executives at OpenAI, Google, and SpaceXAI have already rallied around Amodei’s plan, which has quickly become a central pillar of the emerging AI safety push. But there may be a simpler and more effective fix hiding in plain sight. Internet security experts say the labs need to focus on network security basics like logs and permissions, applying the same rigorous defenses they do for human users. It’s not as exciting as third-party auditing and alignment work — but it may end up being more effective. “To me, it seems like they’re outsourcing,” Katie Moussouris, the CEO of Luta Security, told TechCrunch of Amodei’s proposal. “Saying [a third-party audit] is the solution is a strange proposition from my perspective. It would be …

I disabled one registry value and my PC finally shut down without stalling

I disabled one registry value and my PC finally shut down without stalling

Published by Miika Tikkanen

One reason I hate shutting down my computer is that I have to restart all my workflow applications, reopen multiple browser tabs, and log in to my CMS the next time I boot my PC. That setup alone is bothersome and time-consuming. Shutting down my Windows 11 PC means closing each app manually first, which is the last thing I want to do after a long day working. Unfortunately, Windows 11 won’t shut down until each app closes on its own, which stalls the whole process. Luckily, you can fix this annoying issue by setting a registry key that instantly closes these apps, ensuring a smooth shutdown. Related I changed one registry value and my Windows PC feels instantly faster This registry change fixed the sluggishness I’d learned to tolerate. Why does your PC take so long to shut down? Your apps closing is halting the process Pankil Shah / MakeUseOf The entire shutdown process takes a long time because Windows saves data and performs a clean shutdown to avoid data loss. The same is …

Time for James Carville to sit down and shut up

Time for James Carville to sit down and shut up

Published by Sam Flores

For much of the 20th century, there were two relatively straightforward ways to win elections in the United States. Conservatives espoused their belief in traditional family values and getting out of the way of the wealthy. They defended the status quo against various liberation movements and labor coalitions, fighting to keep everything as it had always been in service of the people who most benefited from the old arrangement. With their natural orientation toward the past, conservatives would run on the good old days and attack anything that read as newfangled, trusting voters who thought similarly to show up at the polls in defense of American values.  Liberals did the same, but in reverse. They fought for the rights of all people and defended the working class from the attempts of the wealthy to claw back hard-won protections. They pushed a larger, protective federal government that held back retrograde currents looking to lock people of color, women and other minorities into a permanent underclass. They ran on these values, trusting unions and activists to back …

Post Office to shut 52 UK branches after Morrisons closures – full list | UK | News

Post Office to shut 52 UK branches after Morrisons closures – full list | UK | News

Published by Sam Flores

Many of the locations are based in the southern part of England, with others in Wales, Scotland and the north of England. Morrisons announced the Daily convenience closures in May. Rising employment was flagged as the primary reason behind the “tough but necessary decision”. Morrisons is consulting with affected staff and said it would look to offer workers roles elsewhere in the business where possible. MPs in some affected constituencies are engaging with Morrisons and the Post Office to try and protect local postal services. In June, the Post Office announced the closure of several branches linked to TG Jones store closures. It is looking for replacement stores that can host branches. The expected Morrisons Daily and TG Jones closures could drive the number of Post Offices to below the government’s requirement of at least 11,500 sites, The Sun reports. The Morrisons Daily Post Office branches closing this year include: Source link

All London Underground and TfL lines that will be shut this weekend

All London Underground and TfL lines that will be shut this weekend

Published by Sam Flores

Five London Underground lines are going to be hit with closures this weekend, according to Transport for London (TfL). The closures affect the Central line, District line, Hammersmith and City line, Metropolitan line, and Piccadilly line. The Piccadilly line closure could be particularly problematic as there is no service on the entire line on Friday night (June 12) which makes journeys to Heathrow Airport far more difficult. You can use the Elizabeth line to get to the airport until around midnight. The closure is in place to cater for track work. There will also be maintenance work on the Weaver,and Windrush lines. Essential maintenance work will also complicate journeys between Poplar and Beckton this weekend. Advertisement Advertisement Advertisement Advertisement London Underground closures Circle line Saturday, June 13 – No service on the entire line until 10.30am. No service between Edgware Road and Tower Hill via Victoria until 2pm. District line Saturday, June 13 – No service on the entire line until 10.30am. No service between Edgware Road/Embankment and Ealing Broadway/Kensington (Olympia)/ Richmond/Wimbledon until 2pm. Saturday, …

People Who Shut Down

People Who Shut Down

Published by Jenni Sidey

In my experience, there are two types of people who shut down. Sam is the first type: If he and his partner get into an argument, it often doesn’t go very far before Sam goes offline—stops listening, stops talking, and is clearly tuned out. But if the argument stops and he is given time to recover—minutes, hours, maybe the next day—he can re-engage. But Allie is the second type: When she gets annoyed by something her partner Jake does, she doesn’t snap or start an argument. Instead, she pulls away, and a wall goes up that Jake can sense. If he asks what’s wrong, Allie is likely to deny that anything is wrong. If Jake presses harder and asks more questions, things get worse, with Allie pulling away even more. Sometimes, several days later, Allie will come around and talk about what she’s upset about. But sometimes, the silent treatment just seems to fade on its own, and the problem is swept under the rug. Shutting down is not the real problem; rather, it is …