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8 Things Boomers & Gen X Carry In A Purse Or Wallet That Younger People Don’t

8 Things Boomers & Gen X Carry In A Purse Or Wallet That Younger People Don’t

Published by Jenni Sidey

Purses and wallets seem to be going extinct. Boomers and Gen Xers aren’t quite ready to let go of their big bag of stuff, though. Younger people, however, don’t really do it, and they don’t get it. Boomers and Gen X are known to carry around these items they deem important in their purses and wallets: 1. A checkbook Zamrznuti tonovi | Shutterstock This might be a strange, niche thing I developed in the ’90s, but I was obsessed with checkbooks. When my parents ordered their checks every month, I’d sort through the options like I was going to decide. I was obsessed with the ones that had animals on them and always tried to convince them to buy them. At one point, they gave me one of their old checkbooks to play with. Kids these days will never understand. While I would still love to have a checkbook, they’ve become nearly extinct in the age of technology. We can pay for everything through an app now, making checks obsolete. Major retailers began phasing out checks …

7 Body Language Clues Of People Carrying Tension In Their Bodies

7 Body Language Clues Of People Carrying Tension In Their Bodies

Published by Jenni Sidey

Our bodies literally tense up when we’re stressed. That means some people can’t mask the physical symptoms that they are suffering through. Their body language gives them away. Just because we try to hide or suppress stress doesn’t mean it goes away. It just means the symptoms of shoving it down erupt at unpredictable and inconvenient times. Body language cues that reveal a person is under a great deal of stress: 1. They constantly fidget Lazy_Bear | Shutterstock.com Many anxious people fidget as a way to process the pent-up energy they’re holding inside. The same is true for someone carrying tension. Their bodies need to find a way to release that anxiety, because it doesn’t simply go away when they ignore it. Whether it’s clicking a pen or shifting in their chair, they’re always moving. RELATED: Kids Raised By Parents Who Were Anxious About Everything Usually Stress About 10 Things As Adults 2. They clench their jaws Chronic stress activates the sympathetic nervous system and ultimately releases stress hormones into the body. So, while some fidgeting …

11 Southern Phrases That Make Perfect Sense To People From The South

11 Southern Phrases That Make Perfect Sense To People From The South

Published by Jenni Sidey

People who grew up in the South know that some Southern phrases make absolutely no sense to anyone who isn’t from there.  We’ve all heard the phrase “bless your heart,” usually as a way to either offer sympathy or be subtly condescending. But aside from that well-known saying, there are plenty of other phrases that leave people from other parts of the country scratching their heads.  People born and raised in the South understand these 11 bizarre Southern phrases instantly:  1. ‘Them kids are raising Cain’ New Africa | Shutterstock If you grew up in the South, there’s a good chance you heard this phrase more than once. From their mom shaking her head in disapproval to their grandma rolling her eyes, this phrase was used to show their dissatisfaction with their children’s behavior.  It wasn’t enough to say, “These kids are being bad.” In typical Southern fashion, people said, “Them kids are raising Cain” as another way of saying, “Those kids are causing a lot of trouble and being disruptive.” If someone were to …

9 Resilient Traits Of People Who Don’t Look Like What They’ve Been Through

9 Resilient Traits Of People Who Don’t Look Like What They’ve Been Through

Published by Jenni Sidey

We become more resilient when we go through adversity and come out on the other side. While it can be scary to face trauma, we actually grow as people by facing discomfort and challenges. While many of us believe that we have to prove our struggles in our personalities or appearance, there are plenty of important traits that people who don’t look like what they’ve been through carry in their lives. Resilient traits people have when they don’t look like what they’ve been through 1. They give grace to others Prostock-studio | Shutterstock While many believe that going through hardship hardens people, the truth is that they often tend to be the most gracious. Coming out on the other side often makes people more resilient, because they have to learn how to care for themselves and heal. That also means that, with a greater sense of emotional intelligence and personal confidence, they’re more willing to help and give grace to others. They can handle the inconvenience of social support, because they know what it’s like …

9 Phrases People Trying To Convince Themselves They’re Happy When They’re Not Say

9 Phrases People Trying To Convince Themselves They’re Happy When They’re Not Say

Published by Jenni Sidey

Ironically, we make ourselves more miserable when trying desperately to chase happiness. Some people believe happiness comes from a comfortable life or never feeling sad, but truly happy folks find joy in small moments. They don’t completely overlook hardship or negative emotions. You can spot someone trying to convince themselves they’re happy when they’re not by the phrases they say casually. Phrases people say when they’re trying to convince themselves they’re happy when they’re not 1. ‘Why wouldn’t I be happy?’ BearFotos | Shutterstock People trying to convince themselves that they’re happy and everything is good may be aware of what’s going right. They can acknowledge that they have a great job or a healthy relationship, but they can’t help but cling to the feeling of being behind or unfulfilled. They can’t escape it, no matter what they achieve, because true happiness doesn’t always stem from material items or achievements. It comes from finding internal stability, which is something a person using a question like this likely lacks. RELATED: People Who Stay Insecure For Life …

People Losing The Capacity To Keep Up With Friendships Usually Say 9 Phrases In Casual Conversation

People Losing The Capacity To Keep Up With Friendships Usually Say 9 Phrases In Casual Conversation

Published by Jenni Sidey

Keeping up with adult friendships is difficult on its own. Add a full plate of responsibilities and personal insecurities and it can feel impossible even though friends are the ones who protect our well-being.  It can feel like rejection when someone can’t make time for us, but the language they use might remind sometimes our friends are just dealing with deeper, more personal reasons. 9 phrases people say when they’re losing their capacity to keep up with friendships: 1. ‘I missed your text’ Krakenimages.com | Shutterstock Memory can suffer if we’re struggling with loneliness or even depression. That’s why messages like this can sometimes be a window into someone else’s personal struggles. It doesn’t feel good to not get a response or have a friend reject a call when we need them, but there’s a chance they’re missing the emotional and mental energy to invest in their relationships. They might not feel secure enough in themselves to figure out what to say or how to express themselves. It’s not a sign of rejection or even …

Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X & Boomers Have Very Different Ideas Of What Counts As A Favor

Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X & Boomers Have Very Different Ideas Of What Counts As A Favor

Published by Jenni Sidey

What one generation considers a thoughtful favor, another might see as doing the bare minimum for a friend or co-worker. Depending on how old you are, you likely have different expectations of what people should be able to ask for help with and what they should take care of themselves. Sometimes these differences can lead to hurt feelings or even resentment when someone feels either put out or unfairly questioned for just trying to be helpful. Gen Z, millennials, Gen X, and boomers each have their own ideas of what counts as a favor. To boomers, a favor usually means doing something practical for another person.  It might look like helping a friend move furniture, giving a neighbor a ride, picking something extra up at the grocery store, or completing a household project with a family member. They view lending a hand as a natural part of being there for someone. Ground Picture | Shutterstock Overall, they value favors that require some level of effort. A quick text might not seem like much compared to …

8 Phrases People With Too Much To Do & Not Enough Help Say Often

8 Phrases People With Too Much To Do & Not Enough Help Say Often

Published by Jenni Sidey

Feeling alone can often amplify feelings of stress, so it’s no wonder someone with too much to do and not enough help feels the burden of burnout more intensely than everyone else. When someone feels the weight of the world on their shoulders at pretty much all times, it’s easy to begin feeling debilitated by the workload. Desperate to somehow manage it all and probably running on far too little sleep, they may find themselves saying things under their breath (or even quite loudly) that reflect their absolutely overwhelming state of being. People with way too much to do and not enough help to do it all tend to say these phrases without even knowing they’re saying them: 1. ‘I don’t know where to start’ PeopleImages | Shutterstock.com Many people with a ton on their plates sabotage their time and productivity by trying to multitask. They exhaust their brains by constantly switching tasks and either end up missing the mark on everything they’re doing or feeling too overwhelmed to make real progress on anything. This feeling of …

8 Phrases People Losing The Capacity To Run Small Errands Say Casually

8 Phrases People Losing The Capacity To Run Small Errands Say Casually

Published by Jenni Sidey

Ironically, staying busy and taking action can motivate people and help protect the energy they need to complete life’s most ordinary tasks. But if someone is drained and stressed out, they might crash after work or spend a ton of time negotiating their free time. They’re already at their breaking point, and these everyday phrases often reveal how little capacity they have left to run even the smallest errands or even say yes to social plans. Phrases people say when they’re slowly losing the capacity to run small errands 1. ‘I’ll just order it online’ MAYA LAB | Shutterstock We often learn how to grow and build resilience by leaning into discomfort. Sometimes, that means having hard conversations or challenging ourselves. Other times, it’s as simple as running the errands we need to finish, even when we’d prefer to do nothing or rely on convenience to get it done without any effort. Someone who’s losing the capacity to run errands, whether due to burnout or emotional stress, may rely on online ordering for instant relief …

People With A Distinctly Low-Quality Vibe Say These 8 Phrases In Passing

People With A Distinctly Low-Quality Vibe Say These 8 Phrases In Passing

Published by Jenni Sidey

Everyone has moments when they say something they shouldn’t have. We’ve all had our cringe moments at work or even at a date. But while we’ve laughed it off and moved on, the things people say regularly reveal a lot about their character.  For people with a distinctly low-quality personality, they let low-vibrational comments like the phrases here slip into everyday conversations and then play the victim when called out. In the moment, they don’t see anything wrong with what they’re saying. But the more they speak, the worse it gets.  People with a distinctly low-quality vibe say phrases like these 8 in passing: 1. ‘I don’t care what people think’ Rawpixel.com | Shutterstock To an extent, it’s good not to care what people think. Healthy people work hard to avoid people-pleasing in their lives. It isn’t just because it’s unrealistic. As Psychologist Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP writes, people-pleasing for the wrong reasons is detrimental to one’s mental, physical, and emotional well-being.  Still, a balance must be struck because not everyone’s opinions are useless. Especially …