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9 Things That Were Everywhere 20 Years Ago But Have Slowly Disappeared With Anybody Noticing

9 Things That Were Everywhere 20 Years Ago But Have Slowly Disappeared With Anybody Noticing

Published by Jenni Sidey

“The only constant is change,” as the old saying goes, but that seems especially true over the past couple of decades. Arguably, day-to-day life hasn’t changed as much since the Industrial Revolution as it has in the 21st century, in ways both good and bad, as technology has exploded and altered nearly every aspect of life. Some of these changes are obvious, of course. Social media didn’t exist at all at the turn of the century, and AI seemed so futuristic back then that the idea of having it as a feature in our hand-held supercomputers sounded like a hackneyed sci-fi plot. But other changes in our lives are much more subtle. Recent discussions on Reddit revealed a surprising handful of changes that have flown under the radar in recent years, despite how massive some of them are. A few things that used to be everywhere 20 years ago but have slowly disappeared: 1. Red eye in photos Hydrargyrum | Wikimedia Commons | Canva Pro Wait, what happened to red eye in photos?! The once-ubiquitous phenomenon …

Men Slowly Losing The Ability To Stay Calm Often Hear 11 Phrases From Their Wives In Everyday Conversations

Men Slowly Losing The Ability To Stay Calm Often Hear 11 Phrases From Their Wives In Everyday Conversations

Published by Jenni Sidey

Have you ever noticed that there are a few things women say that offend men more than women? Often, they trigger insecurity or even make them feel emotionally unsafe. They are not inherently rude, but they just rub them the wrong way. While you don’t want to have to tip-toe around your partner, it’s good to be thoughtful about what you say to them out of simple kindness, and they should do the same for you. Men who hear phrases like these regularly from their wives often struggle to keep calm, and while it’s their repsonsibility to manage their reactions, it might be good to take a look at these phrases and consider avoiding them. 11 things husbands hear from their wives in daily conversations that cause them to lose their ability to stay calm: 1. ‘Man up’ Telling a man to “man up” is outright offensive. You are undoubtedly telling him that he is not acting like a man, whatever that means to you. The phrase reinforces toxic masculinity and emotionally repressive forms of …

8 Phrases Men Who Are Slowly Losing Their Capacity For Love Say In Casual Conversation

8 Phrases Men Who Are Slowly Losing Their Capacity For Love Say In Casual Conversation

Published by Jenni Sidey

The ability to love rarely disappears all at once, but a man’s capacity for love can slowly erode over time after he’s been through enough disappointing experiences. He may have once had incredibly high hopes for his love life, but once he’s emotionally exhausted, he becomes almost obsessed with protecting himself from vulnerability,  This shift can sometimes be subtle enough to miss as he carries on with everyday life, dating like nothing’s wrong. Still, the way he talks about love when he’s casually sharing with someone is likely to reveal that something inside him has changed. If a man is slowly losing his capacity for love, he’ll often say these phrases casually: 1. ‘I don’t need anyone’ NDAB Creativity | Shutterstock A man who says he doesn’t need anyone may be protecting himself from disappointment before it happens. He may have become so used to handling everything alone that relying on someone is unnecessary or even risky. He no longer views connection as something that adds to his life. Instead, it becomes a weakness. That …

People Who’ve Grown Slowly Resentful Usually Say 4 Bitter Things In Casual Conversation | Mitzi Bockmann

People Who’ve Grown Slowly Resentful Usually Say 4 Bitter Things In Casual Conversation | Mitzi Bockmann

Published by skeptic

Unless you have been living in some fairy tale, you know resentment is a destructive factor in romantic relationships. When you first fall in love, it’s fireworks, roses, and warm fuzzies. I’m not saying you can’t or won’t live happily ever after, but I’m saying that doing so is difficult sometimes for those couples in even the happiest, healthiest relationships. Perhaps the best way to illustrate resentment is the metaphor of a thousand cuts: those everyday instances that inflict pain on the other person slowly, brutally waning what once was and reducing the fireworks between the two of you to all but an ember or two. People who have grown slowly resentful usually say these bitter things in casual conversation: 1. *Silence* (using the silent treatment) Passive aggression can be expressed in various ways. For example, your partner may be angry at you for something you may have done (sometimes, it may be perfectly insignificant acts you might not remember) that they’ve bottled up for a week. They haven’t even spoken to you, also known …

‘I watched my best friend disappear slowly at the hands of an abuser’

‘I watched my best friend disappear slowly at the hands of an abuser’

Published by Daniella Wilson

In cases of domestic abuse, our hearts naturally (and rightfully) go out to the people who have been through it. We want to take their hand, hold them close, and support them through it. The experience is unimaginable to many – and the impact abuse can have on friends and family is deep and devastating too. To mark Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, we spoke to 36-year-old survivor Rosie, and her best friend, Holly, about what they went through during the five years Rosie was in an abusive relationship with the father of her two children. © Getty Images “For five years, I watched my best friend of twenty years disappear slowly,” Holly says. “Seeing the person you love become a shell of themselves is a heartbreak I still can’t find the words for. I knew the beautiful, confident, hilarious, fiercely intelligent and deeply kind person I’d grown up with was still there, but she was buried beneath anxiety, isolation and survival.” ‘I was tiptoeing around a minefield’ Over the course of their five-year relationship, Rosie …

People Slowly Losing The Ability To Stay Calm Usually Say 8 Phrases In Casual Conversation

People Slowly Losing The Ability To Stay Calm Usually Say 8 Phrases In Casual Conversation

Published by Jenni Sidey

The signs that someone is about one minor inconvenience away from seriously losing their cool usually show up in the phrases they say when they’re trying to hold it together in conversation. Stress can do a number on anyone’s impulse control, and it will slowly chip away at the ability to stay calm. People dealing with burnout often have their emotional regulation tested. Phrases people say when they are struggling to keep their cool instead of losing their temper: 1. ‘I’m not yelling!’ Oleg Elkov | Shutterstock.com When someone is dealing with a lot of stress, their emotions can be all over the place. A small argument or a minor inconvenience can feel catastrophic not because of the severity of whatever is in front of them, but because the stress they’ve been suppressing is finally bubbling over. So, if someone’s getting overly defensive and raising their voice in situations that seem minor, you’ll probably hear a phrase like this. RELATED: You Can Tell How Mentally Strong Someone Is By 11 Things They Do When They’re …

People Slowly Finding Their Capacity For Joy Again Usually Say 8 Phrases In Casual Conversation

People Slowly Finding Their Capacity For Joy Again Usually Say 8 Phrases In Casual Conversation

Published by Jenni Sidey

Many people think joy and happiness are the same thing, but joy is actually a distinct emotion someone feels when they’re content with their life, challenges and all. Most of us go through times when we think we no longer have the capacity to feel joy, but that is rarely true. The tough times make the moments when it becomes clear something is shifting in a positive direction more special. Even if they don’t realize what’s happening right away, their vocabulary will change in a big way. People who are regaining their capacity for joy often use these phrases in everyday conversations: 1. ‘I’ve really been looking forward to this’ BGStock72 via Canva When someone feels like they’ve got no joy left, one of the first things they’ll notice is the way they don’t feel excited about anything anymore. The things they have planned that they would have looked forward to before just feel like every other obligation on their schedule. When things start turning around, they start to feel that kind of excitement again. …

9 Phrases Couples Who Are Slowly Losing Their Mental And Emotional Connection Say

9 Phrases Couples Who Are Slowly Losing Their Mental And Emotional Connection Say

Published by Jenni Sidey

When couples start to feel emotionally disconnected, it has a huge effect on their communication. The way they talk to each other will be one of the first signs that they’re not as close as they once were. Sometimes this means they use hurtful phrases, but it can also mean the things they say show that they just don’t care anymore. When a couple is losing their mental and emotional connection, they’ll say these phrases often in casual conversations 1. ‘You can do whatever you want’ Alex Green from Pexels via Canva In an ideal world, couples would always work together and be totally committed to their relationship. But it’s pretty clear we don’t live in an ideal world, which is easy to see when couples don’t care about each other like they used to. It’s actually totally normal for couples to grow apart over time. Both partners will keep changing as individuals, so the relationship won’t always look the same. That doesn’t have to lead to animosity, but some just shrug and ignore the …

4 Things People Who Are Slowly Losing All Their Mental & Emotional Discipline Usually Do In Everyday Life

4 Things People Who Are Slowly Losing All Their Mental & Emotional Discipline Usually Do In Everyday Life

Published by Jenni Sidey

We rightly admire mentally & emotionally disciplined people. Because whatever your goals are — from making the Olympics or starting a business to writing a novel or sticking to a new diet — self-discipline is often a key ingredient. Still, self-discipline is a misunderstood concept, mainly because we think about it as a fixed personality trait. But here’s what most people don’t understand: Self-discipline is more about habits than genetics. As a psychologist, I work with a lot of people struggling to be more disciplined in their lives. And what I’ve noticed is that it’s not for lack of desire or motivation. The reason we struggle to be more disciplined isn’t a moral failing or faulty genes; it’s that bad habits interfere with our natural ability to be disciplined. If you want to become a more self-disciplined person, learn to identify these habits and eliminate them. Self-discipline won’t be far behind. People who slowly lose all their mental and emotional discipline usually do these casually: 1. They rely on willpower Katrin Primak / Shutterstock People with …

Parents Who Are Slowly Losing Their Mental & Emotional Energy Say 6 Things

Parents Who Are Slowly Losing Their Mental & Emotional Energy Say 6 Things

Published by Jenni Sidey

Parenting can wear down even the strongest person. It’s not always the big breakdowns or obvious signs of burnout that reveal when a parent is struggling. It’s in the little things they say or do, almost without thinking. When certain phrases become a regular part of a parent’s vocabulary, it can show that they’re running low on the mental strength and emotional energy needed to get through the day. Even the people who seem like they’re handling everything just fine are the ones who need support the most. Parents who are slowly losing their mental and emotional strength repeat the same 6 phrases: 1. ‘I’m just tired’ Pixel-Shot | Shutterstock When a parent says they’re tired, they may not just mean they need a nap. They’re exhausted from constantly making decisions, remembering appointments, cleaning up messes, managing everyone’s moods, and somehow being expected to know where everything is at all times. It’s an easier way of saying they don’t have much left in them to keep up with their responsibilities. Because parents are so used …