6 Tactics From Domestic Abusers’ Litigation Playbook
This piece is co-authored by Lisa Aronson Fontes, Ph.D., and Jenny Wiggs, Ed.D. When they leave an abusive relationship, domestic violence survivors believe the hardest part is over. They expect family court will protect them and their children. It can be a shock to discover that the abuse dynamics have morphed but not ceased. Domineering tactics now unfold through pleadings, motions, custody evaluations, discovery, and courtroom proceedings. Across jurisdictions, survivors report similar litigation narratives that undermine their credibility, cast doubt on their parenting, diminish their finances, and distort the past. Recognizing these patterns can help survivors and those who work with them respond strategically instead of reactively. 1. Pathologizing the Survivor: “Crazy and Addicted” Abusers and their attorneys try to pathologize the survivor as mentally ill, substance-abusing, or both. Abusers often describe survivors as anxious, unstable, depressed, paranoid, dysregulated, irrational, and incapable of making sound decisions. Courts focus on the victim’s alleged shortcomings and away from true abuse. Abusers, their attorneys, and the mental health professionals they hire often apply serious psychiatric labels to victims. …



