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4 Books That Complicate Motherhood

4 Books That Complicate Motherhood

Sarah Blakley-Cartwright is the author of Heavy Cream, a novel about a teenage girl finding mother figures in unconventional places. It’s out tomorrow from Simon & Schuster. Below, Sarah Blakley-Cartwright recommends four books that complicate motherhood. Mom & Me & Mom by Maya Angelou Maya Angelou’s mother, Vivian Baxter, sent Maya and her brother away as very young children to live with their paternal grandmother in Arkansas. When Maya returned to her mother years later, she regarded her less as a mother than as a beautiful, formidable stranger. Baxter, miraculously, does not demand to reclaim the title. Instead, she sets about earning her place in her daughter’s life. The story is unusual in tellings of maternal abandonment. The relationship is not repaired by revisiting the original wound, but by what Vivian Baxter does afterward. She is bold, glamorous, unconventional, and fiercely protective. If she has not been present in the lead-up, she repeatedly shows up for her daughter as she forges her way into adulthood. The woman who gave Maya away as a child is …

AOC exposes MAGA’s motherhood hypocrisy

AOC exposes MAGA’s motherhood hypocrisy

In MAGA’s self-mythology, they are a family first movement that encourages Americans to have more babies. Over the past year, some of the coalition’s most prominent figures have touted a responsibility to pro-create. In December 2025, Lara Trump said on Fox News, “We’re going to be in a pickle if we don’t get more babies coming.” Three months later, in a speech at the 2026 March for Life, Vice President JD Vance congratulated himself for impregnating his wife Usha, saying he “practices what he preaches” when he calls for “more families and more babies.” Katie Miller, the podcaster and wife of White House deputy chief of staff Stephen Miller, used the same wording to announce her pregnancy on X in late 2025: “The White House practices what they preach about increasing the fertility rate.” Even Donald Trump has gotten in on the act. At a Women’s History Month event in March 2025, he bizarrely referred to himself as the “fertilization president.”  So when Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez took to Instagram recently to announce she is freezing …

Horrors of Motherhood | The Haunting of Alejandra by V. Castro

Horrors of Motherhood | The Haunting of Alejandra by V. Castro

Motherhood makes for potent storytelling material. Horror fiction about motherhood highlights the vulnerability and physicality of childbearing and childrearing and all its companion terrors. In The Haunting of Alejandra by V. Castro, motherhood’s many complexities are brought to bear in a story inspired by La Llorona, the haunt of Mexican folklore. After learning the barebones story of La Llorona as a young adult, it inspired both revulsion and a profound curiosity to know more about the mournful murderer of her own offspring. There’s a reason you can find versions of these undone women in white across cultures, from Ireland’s banshee to the hantus of my own background, Malaysia’s langsuir and pontianak. As in The Haunting of Alejandra, they awaken a universal primeval terror, and if you dive deeper you’ll find so much more than what chokes the surface. Note: This book comes with a lot of content warnings, including maternal mortality, attempted suicide, child endangerment, and rape. The Haunting of Alejandra by V. Castro You’ll find edge-of-your-seat terror and body horror in Castro’s novel, but …

Chronic Illness Is the New Rite of Passage in Motherhood

Chronic Illness Is the New Rite of Passage in Motherhood

This morning, I woke up at 6 a.m. and willingly went to an imaging center to allow them to shove my body into a metal tube and take pictures of all of my organs. The technician became interested in my reason for being there once I disclosed that I was six months postpartum. I explained my months-long journey, which included one endoscopy, two colonoscopies, a CT scan, multiple blood tests, and now an MRI (with insurance still refusing to cover the medication I need to not die), along with the joking warning: You’ll be fine if you don’t get pregnant. She leaned over and said, “I just found out that I am.” At that point, I did everything I could to minimize. I had a higher risk. Autoimmunity runs in my family. I had unexplained symptoms from childhood. This would not happen to her. Except it might. She already has Hashimoto’s, she disclosed, and, as she put it, autoimmune disorders run in packs. As I sat still in that metal tube, listening to the whirring …

Matrescence: Why motherhood can affect your sense of self

Matrescence: Why motherhood can affect your sense of self

When a woman becomes a mother, she becomes a completely different person in many ways – physically, emotionally and socially. This phase of becoming a mother is known as matrescence. The term was coined in the 1970s by American medical anthropologist Dana Louise Raphael, who described it as “the time of mother-becoming”. To put it simply, when a baby is born, a mother is born too. And while support is usually at hand in terms of looking after a child, women tend to be left to their own devices to deal with this big life change. “Matrescence is often described as the motherhood equivalent of adolescence,” said Elle Cheng, a psychotherapist and matrescence coach in Singapore. “It is the developmental phase where a woman undergoes a profound psychological, emotional and identity transformation as she moves from thinking about conception, through pregnancy and into motherhood.” To help with this life transition, some women are getting guidance from a matrescence coach. Sara Pantry is a matrescence practitioner in Singapore who founded Return Ready, a peer-to-peer mentorship programme …

My egg, my wife’s womb, our baby: how we found our way to lesbian motherhood

My egg, my wife’s womb, our baby: how we found our way to lesbian motherhood

Late last year, it became my friend’s favourite party trick. “Rosa’s going to have a baby next week,” she’d say to a group of people who didn’t know me. I’d watch their faces as they tried to inconspicuously scan my body, detecting no sign of a bump. “Congratulations!” they’d say, smiles tight, clearly wondering what other delusions I might have up my sleeve. I was, however, about to have a baby. At daybreak on a warm October day, our beautiful, 6lb 10oz, 19.5in‑long baby girl was born; skin pink and taut, scream wet and bright. I held my wife’s hand and head as our daughter emerged from her body – a daughter who had initially come from me. We did what is known as reciprocal IVF: a route to parenthood that is increasingly being used by queer people. First, we each made embryos by retrieving our eggs and having them fertilised with donor sperm. With “normal” IVF, the embryo, if you’re lucky enough to have made one, returns to the body that made the eggs. With reciprocal IVF, …

In underground breastmilk donation networks, motherhood transcends politics and theology

In underground breastmilk donation networks, motherhood transcends politics and theology

(RNS) — When the Rev. Kim Sue Jackson, a 41-year-old Episcopal priest and Georgia state senator, started browsing Facebook for breastmilk donors in the Atlanta area, she didn’t think religion would play much of a role in the effort.  Over nine months, she drove through the state to pick up coolers full of breastmilk from mothers she met on the internet, to feed to her son, Khalil. Sometimes, the families giving away their excess breastmilk spoke about their gesture as an act of faith, she said. One of the first openly gay priests of color in the Episcopal Diocese of Atlanta, Jackson’s search led her to cross paths with mothers and other Christians whose lifestyles and theologies differ from hers. She recalled picking up milk from families who homeschooled their children, viewed raising large families as their faith mission and whose mothers stayed home to tend to their families. Their decision to donate, she said, was born out of the desire to “be a blessing for other families.” Breanna Seibel talks on social media often …

5 Nonfiction Books Spotlighting Matriarchs and Motherhood

5 Nonfiction Books Spotlighting Matriarchs and Motherhood

Every second Sunday in May, various countries celebrate mothers with heartfelt greeting cards, cheery bouquets, and coveted restaurant reservations. Motherhood—in real life, fictional, and nonfictional—looms so large, it clamors for an official celebration, but 24 hours seems like a mere snippet of time for a figure of such importance to so many. A peek at the TBR titles on my book cart sings of my fascination with the subject of mothers—there’s All the Mothers by Domenica Ruta, The Blue Jay’s Dance by Louise Erdrich, and mother by m.s. RedCherries. In every reading nook: Janet Fitch’s White Oleander. And high on my to-buy list, So We Can Know, edited by Aracelis Girmay. Recently, I started the much-acclaimed memoir Mother Mary Comes to Me. From the first page, it describes the influence of Arundhati Roy’s mother with searing clarity: “taller in my mind than any billboard, more perilous than any river in spate, more relentless than the rain, more present than the sea itself.” When it comes to mothers, a myriad of experiences exist, which call for …

5 Nonfiction Books Spotlighting Matriarchs and Motherhood

5 Nonfiction Books Spotlighting Matriarchs and Motherhood

Every second Sunday in May, various countries celebrate mothers with heartfelt greeting cards, cheery bouquets, and coveted restaurant reservations. Motherhood—in real life, fictional, and nonfictional—looms so large, it clamors for an official celebration, but 24 hours seems like a mere snippet of time for a figure of such importance to so many. A peek at the TBR titles on my book cart sings of my fascination with the subject of mothers—there’s All the Mothers by Domenica Ruta, The Blue Jay’s Dance by Louise Erdrich, and mother by m.s. RedCherries. In every reading nook: Janet Fitch’s White Oleander. And high on my to-buy list, So We Can Know, edited by Aracelis Girmay. Recently, I started the much-acclaimed memoir Mother Mary Comes to Me. From the first page, it describes the influence of Arundhati Roy’s mother with searing clarity: “taller in my mind than any billboard, more perilous than any river in spate, more relentless than the rain, more present than the sea itself.” When it comes to mothers, a myriad of experiences exist, which call for …

Why ‘Optimizing’ Motherhood Is Destroying Your Mental Health

Why ‘Optimizing’ Motherhood Is Destroying Your Mental Health

I am a mom to young children, a fact social media seems well aware of. My feed is a constant flood of ways to structure my child’s wake windows, cook whole-food meals for my picky toddler, and get back in shape post-baby—all while working a full-time job and curating my toddler’s bespoke wooden toy collection. Optimization culture is trashing our mental health, and we need to resist it at all costs. Just Because You Can Doesn’t Mean You Should If it were just social media, it would be much easier to swear off, but it is not; it is like the air we breathe. It comes from our employers, our family, and horrible people with podcast equipment—this overwhelming feeling of needing to optimize, to always be doing more. Some of us do very well at this; clients I work with identify themselves as perfectionists. In its most severe form, it is obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. Many of my clients fit the diagnostic criteria and suffer as a result; others are “over-functioners” fueled by an overwhelming need …