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Married Couples Likely To Divorce Soon Exhibit These 4 Behaviors, Says Renowned American Psychologist | Monica Ramunda

Married Couples Likely To Divorce Soon Exhibit These 4 Behaviors, Says Renowned American Psychologist | Monica Ramunda

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Arguing is a normal part of any relationship. Married couples who claim not to argue are either lying to themselves or not participating fully in the marriage. If you have a marriage without disagreement, you have two partners who are not fully invested in the marriage. Too much arguing might be a sign of troubled waters. Dr. John Gottman, a renowned American psychologist, was able to identify the four biggest signs of divorce among married couples that he called “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.” If you feel that you and your spouse argue far too much, you might want to see if you can identify those four behaviors that may indicate divorce is near. Identifying the elements of a potential breakdown in your marriage may help you save it from the brink of disaster.  Married couples likely to divorce soon exhibit these 4 behaviors: 1. Criticism Criticism can often be unhealthy for any relationship. That’s not to say that all criticism is bad. For instance, constructive criticism can have a positive impact. However, if you use …

The Painful Secret Divorced And Widowed People Know That Newly Married Couples Don’t

The Painful Secret Divorced And Widowed People Know That Newly Married Couples Don’t

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When I first taught a class on singlehood in 1999, a graduate student told me a story that stunned me. She said that her mother and her romantic partner used to socialize every weekend with another couple. That had been going on for quite some time.  When her mother and her partner broke up, her mother called the woman from the other couple to tell her.  They had a long talk and the friend offered her empathy and support. At the end of the conversation, though, she said she was sorry she wouldn’t see her that weekend. The two women had had an enduring friendship, but that did not seem to matter; without her partner, the newly single woman was no longer welcome to socialize with the other couple. I’m no longer shocked by stories like that because by now, I’ve heard plenty of them. I still wonder when I hear them, though, whether the couples who ostracize their newly single friends realize how rude, hurtful, stigmatizing (and in my opinion, immature) that can be.  …

Couples Who Want To Stay Married Do 5 Specific Things Every Day | Lianne Avila

Couples Who Want To Stay Married Do 5 Specific Things Every Day | Lianne Avila

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Entering a relationship is like starting a long-term investment for retirement. You build a good and strong marriage over time. It’s the small deposits that make a big difference over the years. If you aren’t making a lot of small deposits, then making one big deposit won’t make any difference. It may hurt your relationship in the long run. If you make too many withdrawals, you will end up overdrawn which can cause the relationship to end. This doesn’t mean you count. Counting is one of the worst things you can do in a relationship. This means you make genuine deposits into your relationship and take a genuine interest in your partner to show your love. Couples who want to stay married do 5 specific things every single day, according to psychology: 1. Kiss This is very simple but it’s easy to get away from when you’re in a long-term relationship. Kiss for at least six and a half seconds, twice a day. This is not a long time. Research shows that kissing frequency is linked to relationship satisfaction. When you …

I Was Married — And Madly In Love With A Woman

I Was Married — And Madly In Love With A Woman

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Labels aren’t my favorite thing. They irritate me in clothing and life. I’ve never been one to adhere to the hetero-normative ideal, even as a child. I wore what I wanted, played how I wanted, and loved who I wanted. I just did most of it in secret.  But labels have a purpose and for this piece, I identify as pansexual. Which is different from bisexuality, one study went out to prove. Essentially, I love the person, without regard for gender or sexuality. I’ve been in relationships with men and women, separately and together.  RELATED: Oops! I Fell In Love With Someone Other Than My Husband For the most part, the women I’ve dated were either bisexual or pansexual until I met Mara. In the good old days, when you could still post personal ads on Craigslist, I had an ad searching for a woman. I was married to my second husband at the time; we were in an open relationship. He was away a lot and at the time, I wasn’t “feeling” men. I wasn’t looking …

Meghan Markle reveals exact reason she married Prince Harry with gushing 10-word tribute | Royal | News

Meghan Markle reveals exact reason she married Prince Harry with gushing 10-word tribute | Royal | News

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Meghan Markle paid a sweet tribute to husband Prince Harry as they met with children at a mental health summit in Abuja on Friday. The Duke and Duchess of Sussex have begun their three-day visit to Nigeria after Harry concluded his UK visit, saying it was “great” to be back. Their visit is linked to the Invictus Games which is celebrating its 10th anniversary. Speaking to children, Harry discussed mental health as he said: “It’s okay, not to be okay.” Passing the microphone back to Meghan, she said in 10 simple words: “Do you see why I married him he’s so smart.” She then went on to encourage the children to share their stories, saying that Lilibet once said to her: “Mama, I see me in you.” Harry and Meghan landed in Abuja this morning as they kicked off their visit with a tour of Lightway Academy, a primary and secondary school in the city. They were greeted by traditional dancers and met some of the primary schoolchildren. During their tour the couple visited a …

I fell in love and got married in six months – after I abandoned dating apps

I fell in love and got married in six months – after I abandoned dating apps

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In her new column, life coach Hattie MacAndrews shares her advice on the problems plaguing her clients. This week she tackles the all-too-familiar sensation of dating app fatigue. Hattie was familiar with that low, fed-up feeling that follows a session of swiping through endless faces. In fact, she was so exhausted by it, she deleted dating apps and went on to fall in love and get married just six months later. Here she shares her advice for overcoming dating app fatigue – and falling in love. Hattie MacAndrews has experience with dating apps The issue: Dating app fatigue I have been single for the last couple of years and I’m suffering from dating-app-fatigue. It feels like I have tried and tested every single dating app and still no luck. I spend hours scrolling and swiping. Often I get no ‘matches’ at all, and when I do they don’t seem to go anywhere. Every person who doesn’t reply makes me feel worthless and has such a negative impact on my confidence. I really want to meet someone …

Why The Best Lovers Are Married Couples, According To Research | Patsy Rae Dawson

Why The Best Lovers Are Married Couples, According To Research | Patsy Rae Dawson

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A 1999 survey of 2930 men and women 45 and older commissioned by the AARP (The American Association of Retired Persons) shows that sexuality remains an essential element in older couples’ lives. Approximately 49% of those with a regular partner engage in sex once a week or more. Most of these adults say, “A satisfying sexual relationship is important to their quality of life,” Oops! I thought sex was just for young couples. Contrary to popular opinion, current research agrees with these older people that regular sexual activity improves their lives. When a young monogamous couple enjoys a loving sexual relationship, their sex life continues to get better as they age. What a wonderful lifelong sexual journey it is of growth and bonding from newlyweds to senior lovers. The ecstatic wonder of youth only gets better over time. Doctors McIlhaney and Bush explain in Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex Is Affecting Our Children how this bonding phenomenon occurs over decades in each other’s arms. Indeed, MRI and SPECT brain scans and new developments …

5 Painfully Brutal Truths About Being A Married Man’s Mistress | Robyn Wahlgast

5 Painfully Brutal Truths About Being A Married Man’s Mistress | Robyn Wahlgast

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So you’re in love with a married man. Some might even call you his mistress, but in your eyes, your relationship means so much more than that. The experience of falling in love with a married man cuts across almost all cultures, age groups, ethnicities, religions, and education levels. Yet, despite the knowledge that this scenario is unethical, immoral, and guaranteed to bring pain to everyone involved, many otherwise smart, single women get their hearts tangled up this way. You already know this is a story that does not end well. Maybe today you’re only fantasizing about getting involved with an unavailable man, and you’re looking for a sign that the universe is warning you to stop, take a deep breath, and just walk away. Or maybe you did get involved and have been dating a married man, and now he has been the one to pull back. While it can be hard to get control of your emotions when you feel so connected to another person, you can at least control how you frame …

3 Money Signs He’s Financially Stable Enough For A Serious Relationship | Tabatha Bird Weaver

3 Money Signs He’s Financially Stable Enough For A Serious Relationship | Tabatha Bird Weaver

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Financial security and stability are important to most people before they enter a relationship or marriage — and for good reason. According to a 2015 study by NerdWallet, 42 percent of men bring credit card debt into new relationships while only 29 percent of women do. NerdWallet management recognizes the strain that one’s finances and money decisions can create in relationships. Kevin Yuann stated that with existing debt and the expense of starting a new life, “You are facing an uphill battle to happily ever after.” The idea that women want financial stability from their mates is not new. My clients still report this as a major concern in their relationships. While the desire is still present, it has shifted with increased empowerment and opportunity for women. Instead of the old idea, “I need a man to take care of me,” we have a new idea: “I don’t want to carry him.” Nonetheless, it’s still a burden that deserves attention, especially because money habits and attitudes can be hard to shift. And in healthy relationships, …

Thinking about getting married? Would £550 sweeten the deal? | Marriage

Thinking about getting married? Would £550 sweeten the deal? | Marriage

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Name: Weddings. Age: The first record of a marriage ceremony between a woman and man (it tended to be in those days) dates from about 2350BC in Mesopotamia (roughly Iraq). Since then it’s gone out of fashion, right? Slowly, and it varies depending on where in the world you’re looking, of course. But yes, nearly 90% of the world’s population now live in countries with falling marriage rates. And the UK? This year, the Office for National Statistics reported that for the first time ever, less than half the adult population were married or in a civil partnership. Why aren’t people getting hitched any more? In a survey by the Thriving Centre of Psychology, 84% of respondents said they didn’t feel it was necessary for a fulfilled and committed relationship. Also weddings are quite pricey, no? Exactly. In the same survey 73% felt it was too expensive to get married in the current climate. Another survey, by Hitched.com, of British newlyweds, found the average cost of a wedding had increased to £20,700. Bloody hell! Hitched.com …