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What Six Umbrellas in Kyoto Teach Us About Kindness

What Six Umbrellas in Kyoto Teach Us About Kindness

Six umbrellas hang from a tree outside Marutamachi subway station in Kyoto, Japan. Beside them, a notice reads: ‘If you have any problems, please take one for free’. I should explain. It is September in Kyoto. The rain showers are short but unpredictable. Some people always carry an umbrella. Some don’t. Some people mind their umbrella with the greatest of care. Some people mislay their umbrella and get very, very wet. Some people borrow an umbrella and remember to give it back. Some forget. Kindness matters A single act of kindness can seem small, especially when the gesture itself is simple. But small acts of kindness tell another person: I noticed you, and your difficulty matters to me. That changes the emotional tone of an ordinary day. Kindness strengthens social connection. It tells us that we are not on our own, even among strangers. In a busy city, an umbrella left for someone you will never meet is a practical symbol of concern: Someone has a problem, someone else anticipated it, and nothing is expected …

Anonymity and the Erosion of Kindness

Anonymity and the Erosion of Kindness

Throughout the year, we all have particular events that mark the passage of time. Birthdays, holidays, special events. As professors, we have a few unique days too: some fun, some not. There’s the first day of classes, where we still (20+ years in) get the jitters. The last day of classes, when we are often just as, if not more excited, than the students. And then there is the day our course evaluations arrive. Typical of many universities, the courses we teach have an anonymous evaluation at the end. These are usually a combination of multiple-choice questions that ask students to rate components of the class on a scale and open-ended questions that allow for additional feedback. In theory, the purpose of these evaluations is to provide useful feedback to the professor. In reality, they do not do that at all. Instead, they have become a place to say all of the things unsaid throughout the semester. We have gotten comments that range from genuinely kind to downright cruel. As much as we would like …