All posts tagged: intimacy

Lena Headey: 'Before Intimacy Co-Ordinators, I Was Thrown To The Wolves'

Lena Headey: 'Before Intimacy Co-Ordinators, I Was Thrown To The Wolves'

Lena Headey has claimed she was “thrown to the wolves” when she was starting out as an actor Over the last decade, intimacy co-ordinators have become increasingly commonplace on the sets of TV shows and films, helping actors and directors navigate scenes involving sex or nudity, which might put them in vulnerable situations. These co-ordinators became more prevalent in the 2010s, in light of the Me Too movement, which saw women calling out the industry-wide harassment, misconduct and abuse that had gone unchecked for decades prior. While these are crew members who traditionally stay in the background, in Lena Headey’s new series Intimacy, she’s dragging the subject right to the forefront. In the eight-part BBC Sounds audio drama – which she also directed and wrote – Lena portrays Liza Simmons, a former actor who has taken a step back from the industry after a troubling experience, to retrain as a therapist and, later, an intimacy co-ordinator. However, when working on a new project, Liza is unexpectedly reunited with a figure from her past, causing her to …

Welcome to the Intimacy Economy

Welcome to the Intimacy Economy

For years, we’ve assumed that the promise of AI is productivity and efficiency — that it will automate manual and low-level processing, allowing corporations and individuals to generate more revenue while freeing up time for more creative, strategic, and meaningful work. Indeed, most institutions studying the impact of AI on society are focusing on workflows, job restructuring and the economy. However, consumer patterns and data are telling a more nuanced story. In March 2025, Bank of America issued a report that projected that 3 billion robots were going to be integrated into mainstream society by 2060; 65% of those were expected to be in domestic homes, 32% in services (presumably people-facing like sales and hospitality), and only 3% in industry. These numbers are becoming a reality. In February 2026, Robotics company 1x announced that their domestic helper robot, Neo, was ready for pre-order. In March 2026, Sunday, the company developing a dishwashing robot, Memo, achieved unicorn status by hitting a 1.5-billion-dollar valuation. Even if the numbers shift, the direction is telling: the future of AI …

Are We in an Intimacy Crisis?

Are We in an Intimacy Crisis?

After a newspaper profile of the “looksmaxxing” influencer Braden Peters, otherwise known as Clavicular, went viral last month, many critics focused on how divorced his nihilistic quest for beauty—he’d call it “sexual market value”—was from any pursuit of women, relationships, or even sex. I was especially flummoxed by this sad man because I had just immersed myself in The Intimate Animal, a new book by the evolutionary biologist Justin R. Garcia on intimacy’s starring role in perpetuating our species. From an evolutionary perspective, the handsome, muscle-bound Clavicular is, by his own accounting, a dud: He suspects that the testosterone-replacement therapy he takes to appear more manly has decimated his fertility, and in any case, he considers sex a waste of time, telling the reporter that it “is going to gain me nothing.” Garcia brings an array of expertise to The Intimate Animal. In 2019, at age 34, he became the executive director of the Kinsey Institute, the renowned sex-and-relationships research center, where he is also a senior scientist. As the chief scientific adviser to Match, …

How High Competence Undermines Intimacy

How High Competence Undermines Intimacy

Jayla and Mark are a high-functioning couple. They developed a strong connection in law school, partly over priding themselves on being so-called type-A personalities, as they are both highly driven, productive, and achievement-oriented. Once they joined forces, there was nothing they couldn’t do. They are both professionally successful, with three happy, stable kids, and very full, busy lives. Although they have many strengths, Jayla and Mark are both privately feeling bored in their relationship. When they do come together, it is mostly to talk about logistics with the kids or to troubleshoot and problem-solve the various issues in their household. They are dependable and truly a team in running their life together. At the same time, they are recognizing something important is missing. Competence is a highly desirable trait and an important one for healthy functioning adulthood. When it goes unchecked, however, it can become a defense. Being on top of everything can bring on a false sense of invincibility. This there-is-no-problem-I-can’t-solve framework leads to difficulty being present, sitting with difficult emotions, and being vulnerable. …

Should AI Simulate Emotional Intimacy?

Should AI Simulate Emotional Intimacy?

Getty Images / Trevor Williams The question that’s stumping top AI researchers isn’t about consciousness or doomsday scenarios. After interviewing dozens of developers at companies including OpenAI, Anthropic, and Meta, Amelia Miller found it was this: should AI “simulate emotional intimacy?” One chatty researcher at one of the top AI labs “suddenly went quiet,” recalled Miller, who studies AI-human relations, in an essay for The New York Times — and then, tellingly, offered up a halting non-answer. “I mean… I don’t know. It’s tricky. It’s an interesting question,” the researcher said, before pausing. “It’s hard for me to say whether it’s good or bad in terms of how that’s going to affect people. It’s obviously going to create confusion.” Though many waffled on answering the question directly, some were adamant about not using AI as an intimacy tool themselves, clearly showing they were aware of the tech’s profound risks.  “Zero percent of my emotional needs are met by A.I.,” an executive who heads a top AI safety lab told Miller. “That would be a dark …

Why You’re Both Intimacy Virgins

Why You’re Both Intimacy Virgins

“I can’t live like this anymore! He doesn’t talk to me. He doesn’t touch me. He doesn’t see me!” Sasha cries, wiping her nose with a tissue. Simon looks away; he’s heard this a million times. I decide to lubricate the moment with some playfulness to help Simon see his role in this dance. “What do you think, Simon? Are you really emotionally challenged?” Sasha laughs awkwardly, not expecting me to put it that way. “Yeah…actually, no…I do have feelings; I just don’t share them.” I’m not surprised, but Sasha is caught off guard. “Then why don’t you share them?” I ask, inviting him to take up more space in the room. “He doesn’t share because he’s not connected to his feelings. He never learned how to communicate,” Sasha bursts out. “Thank you, Simon 🙂!” I say to Sasha with a smile, signaling that I want to hear from him directly. The Intimacy Queen and the Emotionally Challenged Partner I see this often in the clinic: One partner (often the female in heterosexual relationships) pulls …