Father’s Day is one of the most widely observed holidays in the U.S., though it tends to receive less cultural attention than Mother’s Day. Like Mother’s Day, it can stir a complicated mix of emotions. For some, Father’s Day is simple. It is a day of gratitude, celebration, and connection. For others, it is emotionally complicated because the person being celebrated was present in some ways but unavailable in others. He may have provided financially, lived in the home, or appeared responsible to the outside world, while still being emotionally distant, reactive, controlling, self-absorbed, or immature behind closed doors. Present and healthy fathers are often less dramatic than people expect. They are not perfect. Their strengths lie in emotional availability, consistency, accountability, and safety. They show up, not only physically but emotionally. They can regulate themselves, repair when they cause harm, and make room for their child’s individuality. The more complicated fathers are harder to name. They may not fit the obvious image of absence or abuse, but their children may still carry lasting emotional …