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When Faced With Liars, Skepticism Can Help

When Faced With Liars, Skepticism Can Help

If you find yourself in a relationship, workplace, or political environment that is constructed more on lies than truth, it is helpful to use psychological research to remain safe and sane. Lies target our mental health, yet we receive little training on how to keep our brains protected from this kind of abuse. Our brains were not designed to pour resources into trying to figure out if someone is telling the truth or not. We evolved to need connection and community to survive. In general, our brains give people the benefit of the doubt to preserve cognitive resources for many other cognitive demands. We are gullible by nature, and even highly educated and advanced individuals can be manipulated by falsehoods. That said, there are strategies that all of us can use if we are concerned that someone is trying to mislead us. These strategies can alert us to liars before our brains get traumatized. Abuse Culture Outlined in detail in The Gaslit Brain, six strategies can protect you from the lies of bullying, gaslighting, and …

How Minnesotans Faced Down MAGA

How Minnesotans Faced Down MAGA

It took only a few minutes before everyone in the church knew that another person had been shot. I was sitting with Trygve Olsen, a big man in a wool hat and puffy vest, who lifted his phone to show me a text with the news. It was his 50th birthday, and one of the coldest days of the year. I asked him whether he was doing anything special to celebrate. “What should I be doing?” he replied. “Should I sit at home and open presents? This is where I’m supposed to be.” He had come to Iglesia Cristiana La Viña Burnsville, about 15 miles south of the Twin Cities, to pick up food for families who are too afraid to go out—some have barely left home since federal immigration agents deployed to Minnesota two months ago. The church was filled with pallets of frozen meat and vegetables, diapers, fruit, and toilet paper. Outside, a man wearing a leather biker vest bearing the insignia of the Latin American Motorcycle Association, his blond beard flecked with ice …