3 Things I Wish I Did Earlier on the Path to Non-Parenthood
When you don’t have kids, you get to design your life with a script that flexes over the years. Only in hindsight can I see how my younger self might have benefited had I given attention to several things earlier in life. 1. Befriend older childfree and childless women. I’d always enjoyed close relationships with those older than me—teachers, work mentors, and women I met at various workshops and retreats. Building trust with these women was like having the big sisters I didn’t get growing up, and I loved their advice and support. In my 20s and well into my 30s, I wasn’t sure motherhood was for me. My younger sisters started having kids. Friends, too. Pressure to follow their lead grew as I focused on building my career. Only when a dear friend decided to have kids did I pause to reflect on my own intentions. After some reflection and discussion with my then-husband, we decided to go for it. I distinctly remember wondering aloud about what else we were going to do with …


