All posts tagged: Arguments

Will More Arguments Make You More Persuasive? It Depends

Will More Arguments Make You More Persuasive? It Depends

You are trying to convince someone — your friend, a client, your spouse — to take some action or change their belief, and you have lots of supporting arguments to make. Should you simply pile on all of the arguments in favor of your position? Or, would the other person think that you were “trying too hard” and be turned off by all of your arguments? More traditional research suggests that having more arguments makes you more persuasive. A very recent study, however, suggests that it’s more complicated than that. While using more arguments in a persuasion attempt may make you look more like an expert, presenting a lot of arguments may also make the target person skeptical about your intentions. They may wonder, does this person have ulterior motives and is just trying to “sell” me on this? A series of recent studies (Bergman et al., 2025) explored these factors and has contested the general belief that more arguments are more persuasive. In these experiments, people were given varying numbers of arguments (1, 3, …

Arguments: The Colliding of Emotional Wounds

Arguments: The Colliding of Emotional Wounds

You know the pattern: You ask what you think is an innocent question, and your partner responds with an over-the-top reaction. Maybe you can rein it in, but maybe not. Their response triggers a strong reaction in you: you punch back, and now you’re both off and running. What’s going on is something below the surface—the fight beneath the fight, the triggering of each other’s emotional wounds. Here’s the anatomy of emotional wounds, their impact, and how to break the pattern: 5 wounds, 3 ways of coping Based on how our parents treated us, we all get wired as children to be sensitive to at least one or two of five wounds: criticism, micromanaging, not feeling appreciated, feeling dismissed or not heard, or feeling neglected. As a child, your ways of coping when you felt wounded were limited to essentially three: get good—walk on eggshells to avoid conflict—withdraw and pull back, or get angry. And if you had siblings, you often bounced off of them: my brother is the angry one, my sister the quiet …

I Am Here to Watch the Birthright-Citizenship Arguments, but Not in a Threatening Way

I Am Here to Watch the Birthright-Citizenship Arguments, but Not in a Threatening Way

Subjects! Yes, I am here watching the oral arguments in Trump v. Barbara. What of it? Can’t a sitting president come watch an oral argument at the Supreme Court on a Wednesday without it being viewed as an attempt to coerce the justices? You know how much I love an oral argument. I am a big fan of the law. I like the faint, wheezing sound it makes as I trample on it, and the mountains of litigation that result. I am not here to cause problems for the justices by listening in a menacing way. I would never! I come from the New York Real-Estate Business, one of the less threatening business traditions. Besides, everyone knows how much I love listening while other people talk and not falling asleep. When do they start the praise, though? This seems like a long time for people to talk in front of me without mentioning that I am a great genius, physically prepossessing, and the one Messiah toward whom all history has been tending (I am paraphrasing …