My friend ranks his friendships in a league table – and it worries me | Friendship
Over a few drinks, a good friend of mine recently let slip that he keeps a spreadsheet of his friends, which he uses to rank them in tiers. Initially I laughed it off as drunken ramblings, but he then proceeded to show me the actual document, saved on his phone with comments next to people’s names. I learned that he keeps a running score of his friends based on how often they WhatsApp him, take the time to call him or go to the pub or on a trip abroad together. At first I found the whole idea amusing and was actually pleased to see I ranked quite highly in his “friendship matrix”, as he likes to call it. However, the more I thought about it, the more anxious and worried I became. I live abroad and don’t get to see my friend all that often, so now I’m slightly terrified I will be relegated to a lower rank and overtaken by other friends who might have more time for him. Is this a normal …