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Why do I keep falling in love with totally unavailable people? | Life and style

Why do I keep falling in love with totally unavailable people? | Life and style

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The question I’m at my wit’s end. I’m a 50-year-old gay man and I’m in a happy, long-term relationship. But I’ve fallen in love with a married straight guy 10 years my junior. He’s a new colleague at work. We get on well and have struck up a companionable working relationship, but my feelings for him have become deeper – and it’s agony. I’m not an idiot. He’s married with young children and I know nothing is going to happen. I don’t think I’d even want it to, but I just can’t stop the intensity of my feelings for him. He’s a kind, thoughtful man, which somehow makes it worse. I couldn’t bear it if he found out I was secretly harbouring lustful or amorous feelings for him. This is not the first time I’ve done this. Over the years there have been others that I’ve secretly fallen for, so I guess it’s a bit of a pattern. The first time was when I was at school at 14. I fell in love with a friend …

Why Your Partner Is Emotionally Unavailable

Why Your Partner Is Emotionally Unavailable

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If you’re in a relationship with someone, it can be pretty frustrating if they’re keeping their distance from you. And when they pull away, you may begin to wonder why they’re so emotionally unavailable in the first place. Is it something you did, or is there more to it? Psychologist Dr Aria Campbell dives into the real reasons behind your partner’s emotional unavailability. RELATED: 4 Specific Signs You’re In Love With An Emotionally Unavailable Woman Why Your Partner Is Emotionally Unavailable Your partner might be emotionally unavailable for many reasons. “Past traumas, attachment issues, and a fear of getting close are just a few things that could be causing them to withdraw emotionally,” says Campbell. Nonetheless, emotional unavailability is often a coping mechanism meant to defend against unwanted pain and suffering, often stemming from past traumas. And according to Psychologist Arasteh Gatchpazian, if your partner: Doesn’t trust easily. Avoids deep conversations. Is defensive. Keeps their options open. They’re likely emotionally unavailable. Campbell adds, “Whenever someone is emotionally unavailable, they may struggle with expressing their feelings or …

5 Ways You Attract Emotionally Unavailable Partners

5 Ways You Attract Emotionally Unavailable Partners

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Source: Jonas Leupe / Unsplash You haven’t heard from the person you’re dating in two days. They didn’t respond to your last text, and you’re starting to feel that familiar sense of dread. You’re confused because this person was consistently in touch the whole time you were dating, texting every morning, responding promptly to your texts, not pressuring you for sex. You had a lot in common and were making exciting plans together. Then, all of a sudden, things changed. They started taking time to respond to you, their texts were short, and they stopped setting up dates. Now, you realize it’s over, but you don’t know how you got here. You’re more convinced than ever that you’re not worthy of the love and relationship you want. Why else would this keep happening? When such a cycle keeps repeating, it wears you down and lowers your self-esteem. It makes you think something must be wrong with you. But, here’s the thing: You don’t know what you don’t know. And if you’re like everyone else, there’s …

Are You an Emotionally Unavailable Partner?

Are You an Emotionally Unavailable Partner?

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Does your partner complain that you’re distant or closed off? Do you find it challenging to express your feelings or engage in deep, meaningful conversations with your significant other? Under normal circumstances, the ability to be emotionally raw and vulnerable is considered an important element of an intimate partnership. Your partner may want you to be open, present, and willing to share your innermost thoughts, feelings, and even some insecurities and shadows. However, many of us do find it difficult to let our guard down and fully engage emotionally. This is not anyone’s fault—it could be because you have been hurt before, or it could be related to how you were raised, even your natural temperament. If you suspect that you might be considered “emotionally unavailable” when compared to the norm or if your partner has expressed concerns, taking the time to reflect on your behaviors and patterns can be a powerful step towards personal growth and improved intimacy. To start, consider the following statements and reflect on how often they align with your own …