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Dear Therapist: I Don’t Want to Take Care of My Aging, Homophobic Parents

Dear Therapist: I Don’t Want to Take Care of My Aging, Homophobic Parents

[ad_1] Dear Therapist, I’m an eldest daughter in my late 20s, and when I was a teenager, my relationship with my parents significantly broke down. I left for college thousands of miles away, anticipating long-term estrangement. They were homophobic, telling me I had to break up with my girlfriend if I wanted to continue to have a relationship with them, and I was not willing to do that. We avoided full-blown estrangement, but our relationship has puttered along without an emotional connection. I text and call my mother a few times a month. I try to text my father and younger brothers, but receive a reply only once or twice a year. My brothers live at home as young adults, so I’m aware of what they’re up to, but I don’t have an open line of communication with them. My conversations with my mother have made clear to me that she and the others are expecting me to eventually move home and provide eldercare. This is unsurprising because my childhood role in our family was …