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Growing up in a utopian commune – and the dangers that came with it; Marina Hyde on the Trump-Musk interview; and the power of embracing selfishness – podcast | Life and style

Growing up in a utopian commune – and the dangers that came with it; Marina Hyde on the Trump-Musk interview; and the power of embracing selfishness – podcast | Life and style

Susanna Crossman describes her childhood in a utopian commune where children ran wild – and the trouble that came with that freedom; Marina Hyde assesses Donald Trump and Elon Musk’s glitch-ridden chat; and Moya Sarner reveals the life-changing power of selfishness, with the help of a simple phrase. How to listen to podcasts: everything you need to know Source link

Five Approaches for Conquering a Partner’s Selfishness

Five Approaches for Conquering a Partner’s Selfishness

Source: Joruba / Dreamstime Selfishness can be subtly manifested in many ways. For example, your partner may be overly controlling, expecting you, at least sometimes, to carry out the other’s wishes. Your partner may be overly angry at times, displacing anger onto you so that you are scratching your head and wondering, “Now what? I really have done nothing to deserve wrath.” Your partner may be giving off occasional signals that you are a bit inferior in the relationship, and the subtle message is that this is how it is supposed to be. Although these examples sound a lot like narcissism, there are important differences between selfishness and narcissism. The simple version is this: Selfishness is much more toned-down than narcissism. According to Psychology Today author Robert Taibbi, those who are not narcissistic but instead have a tendency toward selfishness do have qualities of empathy and a sense of right and wrong. In other words, they are teachable and can change. Those with a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), in contrast, tend to be self-absorbed, with …

Is our sense of fairness driven by selfishness? We’re studying the brain to find out

Is our sense of fairness driven by selfishness? We’re studying the brain to find out

We’ve all been there. You’re dying to grab that last piece of cake on the table during an office meeting, but you are not alone. Perhaps you just cut off a small piece – leaving something behind for your colleagues, who do exactly the same thing. And so you all watch the piece of cake getting smaller and smaller – with nobody wanting to take the last piece. Whenever we make choices in a social setting about how much we want to share with others we must navigate between our own selfish interests and social norms for fairness. But how fair are we truly? And under which circumstances do we offer others a fair share of the cake? Neuroscientific research has started revealing answers. Our own team used electric brain stimulation on 60 volunteers to figure out which parts of the brain were involved. Humans have a strong preference for proactively conforming to social norms – even if there’s no punishment for not doing so. This has been extensively studied with economic games in which …

How We Talk – The Atlantic

How We Talk – The Atlantic

Texting, calling, voice notes, group chats: Humans’ relationship to the phone is constantly evolving. Alexey Boldin / Shutterstock / The Atlantic January 6, 2024, 9:41 AM ET This is an edition of The Wonder Reader, a newsletter in which our editors recommend a set of stories to spark your curiosity and fill you with delight. Sign up here to get it every Saturday morning. Gathering with family can be a chance to observe up close how multiple generations live their lives. One fascinating instance I’ve been thinking about lately: the way people interact with their phones. Home for the holidays, one might’ve encountered the avid texters, the old-fashioned phone talkers (those can exist across generations), the group-chat fiends, the brave (or perhaps annoying) voice-note senders. Each person’s relationship with their phone is different, of course—a murky combination of age, preference, and environment, among other things. Today’s newsletter rounds up some of our writers’ analysis on ever-evolving modes of phone communication, from those that grate on us to those that connect us. On Talking Maybe Don’t …