What’s It Like To Be In A Polyamorous Relationship?
“I have a crush on someone,” my partner, Quinn, said, sitting next to me on our therapist’s grey couch. Those were the words I’d been dreading since we stopped being polyamorous a year earlier. When they told me it was our close friend, I threw my head back and laughed. Later, I curled up in their lap and cried. Quinn and I were both polyamorous when we met. They weren’t dating anyone; I was living with my boyfriend at the time. My feelings for Quinn brought my uncertainty about my boyfriend, whom I had been with for four years, into sharp contrast. Two months after my first date with Quinn, I left him. When Quinn and I decided to be partners, we shared what we loved about polyamory: the ability to get needs met through multiple relationships, the freedom to be individuals and the endless possibilities. “I love the idea of there being infinite, limitless love,” my Pisces partner waxed dreamily. However, we accidentally fell into monogamy, drunk off a love like nothing either of …
