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8 Signs Of A Deeply Narcissistic Person

8 Signs Of A Deeply Narcissistic Person

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If you’ve been in an abusive relationship, there’s a good chance that the person who abused you was a narcissist. Deeply narcissistic people are perilous kinds of people.  What makes them so insidious is that they know how to hurt their victims and how to keep their victims around.  Deeply narcissistic people tend to make the lives of those around them miserable. They bully, dominate, gaslight, and disrespect boundaries. What they might confuse with love, or what their partners might take as love, is a way for them to pursue their happiness and fulfill their desires. Here are things deeply narcissistic people are likely to do to you: 1. Emotionally blackmail you fizkes / Shutterstock This abuse tactic takes advantage of the fact that you have a conscience. They will guilt you whenever you stand up for yourself, make you feel horrible for refusing them, and tell you that if you liked them, you’d do what they say. Narcissists love using this because it will make you think you’re the bad guy, even when you did nothing …

9 Low-Key Signs That You Dealt With Narcissistic Abuse As A Kid

9 Low-Key Signs That You Dealt With Narcissistic Abuse As A Kid

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In certain scenes I’ve been in, it’s almost a given that you have (or had, in my case) serious issues with your family. Most of the people in these crowds were runaways. Those who were able to get out and make a living were low-to-no contact. If I had to guess, I’d say that around half of the people in these crowds had a narcissistic parent. How did I know? After drinks, they’d always open up about it. Or, they’d flat-out tell me. Over time, I started to notice something interesting about the kids of narcissistic parents. They often had very similar traits. These are the things that usually tip me off to a childhood spent around a narcissist. Here are 9 low-key signs that you dealt with narcissistic abuse as a kid: 1. Perfectionism Narcissistic parents tend to view their children as extensions of themselves. Since narcissists demand that everyone sees them as perfect, that often means that their children have to be “perfect” too. I’ve seen a lot of young adults have meltdowns …

Psychologist Explains Why Forgiveness Sometimes Does More Harm Than Good

Psychologist Explains Why Forgiveness Sometimes Does More Harm Than Good

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Oftentimes we hear that having grace and forgiving those who’ve hurt us is important when trying to find closure, move on, and heal.  However, a psychologist named Dr. Ramani Durvasula, who specializes in guiding healing from narcissistic relationships, shared some honest advice about why people shouldn’t get caught up in the semantics of forgiveness. The psychologist explained why forgiveness sometimes does more harm than good.  “How do we forgive someone who’s hurt us so badly as a narcissist?” Dr. Ramani was asked by Lewis Howes during an episode of his podcast “The School of Greatness.” Giving an honest answer, Dr. Ramani pointed out that we don’t actually have to forgive, and it often doesn’t serve any purpose in our journey of healing after being in a toxic situation with an individual who has brought us nothing but pain. Dr. Ramani explained that we shouldn’t feel an obligation to forgive someone who has “hijacked” our souls and made it impossible to find peace on this earth. “Maybe there is no forgiveness for that,” she revealed. “The pressure to …

3 Soul-Sucking Mind Games All Narcissistic Men Play In Relationships | Maggie Connor

3 Soul-Sucking Mind Games All Narcissistic Men Play In Relationships | Maggie Connor

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A narcissist is usually quite charming and quite intelligent, often making narcissistic mind games hard to spot. Narcissists promise you the sun, moon, and stars. They know how to push your buttons in a way that they ‘entrap’ you in their world so that you do what they want. The moment you stop doing what they want, they get angry. When you choose to leave the relationship, they throw you away and tell everyone they were victimized by you. Never make the error of thinking you can change a narcissist or help them stop playing narcissistic mind games unless you are a trained therapist and they have sought you directly to help them with this mental disorder. Make no mistake, this is a personality and mental disorder, and if needed, they can get help from a mental health care professional, but only if they want the help. RELATED: What I Wish I’d Known Before I Fell For A Narcissist Here are 3 soul-sucking mind games all narcissistic men play in relationships: 1. Inflating their sense …

Narcissistic Parents Assign Roles To Their Children — Which Is Yours?

Narcissistic Parents Assign Roles To Their Children — Which Is Yours?

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If you grew up as the child of a narcissist, it is quite common for them to cast you into a certain role within the family that you can’t escape no matter how hard you try. As long as you stay in a relationship with the narcissist, they are going to keep treating you the same way that they did in childhood, no matter how much you try to change to please them. There are some typical roles that narcissistic parents will typically assign to their children, which are referred to as the Scapegoat child, the Lost Child and the Golden Child. There may be more than one of these, depending on how many children are in the family. If you have recently begun to suspect that one or both of your parents is a narcissist, then looking at the roles that children were asked to play within the family can help to determine if this is the case. When I was growing up, I didn’t know these labels as a child. However, I did …