Source: Domingo Alvarez E / Unsplash You’re scrolling through Instagram and see a picture of someone outside your relationship who you think looks hot. They are half-dressed, posing seductively, and single, which you, being in a committed relationship or married, are not. You give it a tap and move on. On second thought, you follow up your tap with a comment. “Looking good,” you write, adding a fire emoji. You keep scrolling and do the same on five other accounts. Three of the accounts belong to people you don’t know, and two to people you’ve met in real life. You rationalize you’re just being nice, which is why you don’t have a problem engaging in this behavior. Some of the people attached to those accounts recognize your kindness, too, and give your comment a heart. Maybe they even follow you back. Still, you say to yourself, it’s nothing. You’re not talking to them. You’re not meeting up with them. It’s the same as saying out loud how you like a shirt you see in a …