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Dear Therapist: I Miss Having Sex

Dear Therapist: I Miss Having Sex

Dear Therapist, I’m 70, nine years a widow, financially stable, no children, no parents. I have family and friends, near and far. I live alone. I used to love sex, but menopause brought on physical changes that inhibited me. Four years of topical estrogen have, my doctor says, fixed the problem. I went through an initial period of really enjoying the novelty of asexuality (my goodness, the time it frees up!), but that’s changed. I miss sex. Last night at dinner, my niece said, “You’re buff!” While I have no illusions that time has not passed—this buff isn’t the same as it was when I was a competitive athlete—I feel certain there’s someone who would be as happy to have a physical relationship as I would be. But how to figure out who? The trouble is, I don’t know if I will again be able to enjoy intercourse. If I can physically enjoy it, it was my favorite part of sex, and I would target my search that way. If I can’t enjoy intercourse, I’m …