Why Gift Giving Is So Stressful
This is an edition of The Wonder Reader, a newsletter in which our editors recommend a set of stories to spark your curiosity and fill you with delight. Sign up here to get it every Saturday morning. If you weren’t already feeling enough pressure to pick out the perfect holiday gifts, this article from Anna Goldfarb will do the trick: Gifts, both the great ones and the disappointing ones, say a lot more about the buyer than about the receiver. Gifts represent our feelings about other people but also the ways we see ourselves. No wonder choosing a gift can feel exhausting. Yet the psychological complexity of gift giving can actually make it less stressful, Goldfarb argued last year: “Gift giving is a nuanced psychological transaction in which the givers also bring their own desires to the table,” and realizing that gift giving is never a purely selfless act can help both givers and receivers lower their expectations, easing some of the anxiety, she notes. (Another way to ease the stress: Stop using gift as …