All posts tagged: givers

​​​​​​​Gift Guides Are Useless – The Atlantic

​​​​​​​Gift Guides Are Useless – The Atlantic

Perhaps this holiday-gifting season, you’re wondering: What do I get for my dad? It’s a difficult question, to be sure. But if you consult a holiday gift guide, the query shifts. What do you get for a dad? Then the answer becomes as clear as an oversize whisky ice cube: a book about an old president, something for golf or the grill, or—oh, a steak subscription! Your own dad’s personal taste might not be accounted for, but the deed will be done. There are many understandable reasons for being bereft of gift ideas. Perhaps you’re a loving friend and family member but you’ve just never had a talent for gifting. Maybe you have a dozen people to buy for and not nearly enough time. Possibly you need to find something for your third nephew who’s visiting, and, frankly, you don’t know anything about him. In any of these scenarios, recommendation lists can be tempting. They’re also massively popular; plenty of people want to outsource the labor of product research and feel comforted by the support …

Why Gift Giving Is So Stressful

Why Gift Giving Is So Stressful

This is an edition of The Wonder Reader, a newsletter in which our editors recommend a set of stories to spark your curiosity and fill you with delight. Sign up here to get it every Saturday morning. If you weren’t already feeling enough pressure to pick out the perfect holiday gifts, this article from Anna Goldfarb will do the trick: Gifts, both the great ones and the disappointing ones, say a lot more about the buyer than about the receiver. Gifts represent our feelings about other people but also the ways we see ourselves. No wonder choosing a gift can feel exhausting. Yet the psychological complexity of gift giving can actually make it less stressful, Goldfarb argued last year: “Gift giving is a nuanced psychological transaction in which the givers also bring their own desires to the table,” and realizing that gift giving is never a purely selfless act can help both givers and receivers lower their expectations, easing some of the anxiety, she notes. (Another way to ease the stress: Stop using gift as …